The bad grades, the shaved head, the tattoos, the piercings, the bisexuality - these disappoint her parents. But these rebellions are less frustrating than her inability to swim. They spent seven years and hundreds - probably thousands - of dollars on lessons, and she never progressed beyond the beginner level. She learned the strokes well enough, but hated the way they taught her to breathe; she refused. “It doesn’t feel good; I won’t do it.” They tried dozens of teachers, hoping each new one would somehow have the magic ability to make her learn. But their daughter is too stubborn.